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Maybe it's a transition. Maybe it's a boundary. Maybe it's a denied request. Whatever it is, your child's reaction was to hit you...so what now?!

☆Deep breath. No one likes to get hit. That can bring up some big emotions in ourselves. But we won't be able to work through the situation if we don't find our calm. 

☆Express how you feel.
Maybe it's a transition. Maybe it's a boundary. Maybe it's a denied request. Whatever it is, your child's reaction was to hit you...so what now?! ☆Deep breath. No one likes to get hit. That can bring up some big emotions in ourselves. But we won't be able to work through the situation if we don't find our calm. ☆Express how you feel. "Ouch. That hurt me!" "That made me feel sad when you hit me". Part of our teaching can involve how we feel as well. ☆Set a boundary. "It is okay to feel frustrated (angry, sad, etc.). But my body isn't for hurting/hitting. When you feel frustrated you can say 'mom I'm mad!'" ☆Narrate their feelings/experience. Acknowledge what happened to them. Hitting is often driven by an emotional reaction. "You felt mad that I told you it was time to put toys away and get ready for bed." ☆Give an alternative and redirect. "Let's get ready for bed together. I can't wait to read bedtime stories with you. Do you want to stomp up the stairs like a dinosaur or a robot?" ☆Note. Depending on how upset your child is, this process might include some co-regulation as well, to help them calm. Teaching about gentle hands and kind choices also happens when a child is calm. Do some teaching and talking outside of the situation. Use books and games to talk about options for when a child is feeling frustrated. If you proactively teach, you can remind them of these alternative options when the situation arises. . . . #parenting101 #attachmentparenting #positiveparenting #momsofinsta #childpsychology #consciousparenting #parentguide #yycfamily #specialeducation #specialneeds #coregulation #teacherlife #mentalhealth #calgary #childdevelopment #teacherspayteachers #kidsconnect #yyc #behaviormanagement #hitme #dysregulated
Yelling at their sister. Throwing things. Dropping to the floor when they're asked to do something. Screaming at the top of their lungs in protest. We know that in the moment it can be so frustrating, and you just want it to stop! 

Behaviour is communication, and thus requires a little bit of detective work. Often the most useful solutions will come from finding out the 𝒘𝒉𝒚 behind what they are doing, instead of focusing on 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 they are doing (even though we know the goal is to get 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 they are doing to stop!)

Ask yourself questions like... what was happening before? Who was involved? What time of day was it? How did I respond? Where were we? Is there a pattern when this happens? How can I help? Investigative questions can help to create a bigger picture, and give us clues as to why this is happening and what we can do to help support the child. 

With over 20 years of combined experience working with children and families, we are pretty good detectives 🕵️🕵️ We will work with you, and work with your child, to figure out what is going on so we can provide therapy, tools, insights, skill building and more. Click here https://www.kidsconnectpsychology.com/parents/ to explore our counselling services. We are here to help! 
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Yelling at their sister. Throwing things. Dropping to the floor when they're asked to do something. Screaming at the top of their lungs in protest. We know that in the moment it can be so frustrating, and you just want it to stop! Behaviour is communication, and thus requires a little bit of detective work. Often the most useful solutions will come from finding out the 𝒘𝒉𝒚 behind what they are doing, instead of focusing on 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 they are doing (even though we know the goal is to get 𝒘𝒉𝒂𝒕 they are doing to stop!) Ask yourself questions like... what was happening before? Who was involved? What time of day was it? How did I respond? Where were we? Is there a pattern when this happens? How can I help? Investigative questions can help to create a bigger picture, and give us clues as to why this is happening and what we can do to help support the child. With over 20 years of combined experience working with children and families, we are pretty good detectives 🕵️🕵️ We will work with you, and work with your child, to figure out what is going on so we can provide therapy, tools, insights, skill building and more. Click here https://www.kidsconnectpsychology.com/parents/ to explore our counselling services. We are here to help! . . . #yycparents #parenting #positiveparenting #kidsconnect #childdevelopment #dailymom #survivingmotherhood #caregiver #positivesolutions #attachmentparenting #momssupportingmoms #morethanmom #teacherspayteachers #educatorsrock #iteach #teachersofinstagram #yyc #childcounselling #parentcounselling #familycounselling #findthewhy #behaviourdetectives #tiredparents #therapysupport